Sunday, November 27, 2011

The Dating Bridge

It's inevitable.  Whenever I am in a conversation with friends, family members, heck even some of my patients, the question will always come up.  It'll be along the lines of "soooooooo are you dating yet?"  Well, since the last potential prince turned into a frog and after a few other failed pursuers, I've been on a "man diet".  The longer i'm on it the more I realize that it is okay to be single. It’s more than okay, it’s actually quite nice. (if I sound crazy then please find me Mr. Right and i'll break the one diet i've stayed with for more than a month) I used to tell myself, all I really need is a good man, but why do I really want a man? Do I even need one?

Sure, he could give me kisses, back rubs, cuddles and hopefully make me laugh. But what else? Other than the fact that Peyton will need a father, I can’t see any other reason to make room for a man person in my life right now.


I love being a single mom, why?:
  • I get to parent the way I want to parent  
  • I get to focus 100% of my attention on Peyton 
  • I get to buy whatever I want without criticism 
  • I can hang out with whoever, whenever 
  • I’m completely free and there’s always the chance that some day I will meet my Prince Charming.
  • And the best part, I get to do whatever I want with Peyton, WHENEVER (and that's just the beginning)

Being a single mom rocks. Really! We are pretty darn amazing. Every single-mother I’ve ever met has been so strong, like a rock, secure in her own solitude completely aware of the challenges and the rewards.

Love. Marriage. Baby in the baby carriage.  Yes, it should happen in that nice order.  Not baby in the baby carriage. Love and then marriage, but life is never as we expected and it doesn't wait for your pity party to end, so you can either accept it or change it.

We don’t have all the answers, but we go on, because we have to. Am I happy? Most of the time. Do I want to find someone eventually? Yes, but that will be another challenge all on it's own and that bridge will be crossed when I come to it. Right now I’ve got a pretty BIG bridge to cross and dating is just not IT.




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